Online Relationships

[BC Boy]

Wow thats sad....but does not surprise me. What happened in the history of PI that causes such low value for life or self worth? I could go off an a rant about how Pinoy are exploited and not just on PI soil....

but best to keep on topic i guess.

So ya video games...bring justice and equality to all...i am only on level 5 

[dylanaz]

So ya video games...bring justice and equality to all...i am only on level 5 

I wont even ask what video game you have a level 5 in - because we know ALL GAMES ARE CREATED EQUAL....

but the one I play is just MORE equal than the others 

[jonnyivy]

Good topic this one,.. especially for guys who are just setting out on this venture of having a Filipina girlfriend.
nothing wrong with finding your wife on-line,.. I did, and its been bliss ever sinse ! But I did go over with an open mind to visit her, infact I went over twice before we ever ended up in bed together !! No-one likes to admit they got scammed on-line,... but after reading some of these posts,.. I will admit I did. Up on the screen on Asian-Euro was this beautiful girl, dressed in a lovely dress, more like a professional portrate than just a snapshot. I got writing to her a few times, then , just as is the usual, she informed me that she needed money to pay her land-line bill. Kinda crazy as she was working in a policemans house and using his computer! However, I fell for it, she asked for , wait for it,..... 15000 peso !!! This was to get her a web-cam so we could chat and look at each other. Crazy me, I sent it, but never any mention of web-cam over the next few weeks. Then one day/night, I insisted on seeing her,... so she switched on. All I could see was shadows, because " she wasn't allowed to put the lights on in the house at night" Unfortunately for her, I managed to just make out the short hair and the big gaps in her teeth that were not as she appeared on her profile picture. Needless to say it ended there and then ! I can laugh about it now, and in a way it lets me see how lucky,.. really lucky I am in finding my beautiful wife who I met the following day. .... great believer in fate !!

Jonny

[Foreigner]

Thanks guys, your comments have really opened my eyes.

I have been to PI a couple of times and was involved in a romance with a Filipina when I was there.  I found it totally amazing that these beautiful young women could be attracted to older men.  In my society you are considered a 'dirty old man' if you go out with someone who is 10 years younger, let alone someone half your age, or younger.

And to be utterly truthful I suppose you could say that I was one of those men that Dylanaz described 'fly over, have my fun, then go home'.  But I didn't forget about the Filipina I met when I got back home and I continued contact.  I had good intentions and made plans for the future.  And yes I sent her money, over time it probably amounted to about 40,000 pesos.

However, time is an issue for these women and we live in different worlds.  While I'm safe and secure at home having a relatively good life, they are struggling just to survive.  I didn't realise that they can't be expected to wait for you to get your act together.  If an opportunity arises they grab it, so when another 'boyfriend' made good his promises to my 'girlfriend', I was told I was no longer needed.   It hurt, still does, but I only have myself to blame.  I guess its a case of 'what goes around, comes around'.

I haven't been to any online sites to meet Filipinas and I probably won't now after reading some responses here.  I'm not in a position to offer anything just yet.  I'll wait until I know I'm ready and then visit PI again .  But this time I'll go with a better understanding, have a good look around, see if its for me and maybe look at finding someone there. 

Cheers

[mikelast]

In my society you are considered a 'dirty old man' if you go out with someone who is 10 years younger, let alone someone half your age, or younger.

Even in the Philippines based on all the Filipino's I've asked this question and there have been quite a few... they consider foreigners and local men dating much younger woman as 'dirty old man'. However to those directly benefiting this is often overlooked and are seen as the best thing since sliced bread 

[Mr. Lee]

IMO people should not give up on online dating because not all the ladies are scammers and a relationship often takes time to develop. One of my nieces is on Filipina Heart and I know she is not a scammer and is just looking for a nice man and one of our friends in Cebu who is a teacher met her husband that way and her sisters who are also teachers are also on FH and I tried to set one of them up with a friend who has a lot of money and she told me that he was too old for her and money is not everything and that she seeks someone she has a connection with and she does not care if they are poor.

Anyway, one thing I learned is that a person learns with each person they meet and each person they talk to, so if nothing else, online dating would help a person to learn the culture and what to look out for. In our own respective countries, we spend a lot of the time when we date on the phone talking to a person and learning as well as spending time with them. Many times when I was dating and talking to a person on the phone, I found that they were just not for me because they were able to let their hair down on the phone but might be nervous in person. Also communication can always be a problem and most Filipinas that I know can write much better than they speak due to nervousness and their accent. To this day and after 15 plus years of marriage, I sometime have to ask my wife to repeat a word and if that does not work then to spell it for me, and sometime I have to do the same for her and she is educated and has lived in the states for all that time.

Whatever a person decides to do, good luck and I hope you find your soul mate.

[Colin]

To this day and after 15 plus years of marriage, I sometime have to ask my wife to repeat a word and if that does not work then to spell it for me, and sometime I have to do the same for her and she is educated and has lived in the states for all that time.

I am also still learning after 21 years of marriage. I have only now just learned that 'll' is pronounces as 'ly' here and not as it is written in English or as just y in Spanish. e.g. Paella is pronounced Paelya here and Paeya in Spanish. We never stop learning.

Colin

[dylanaz]

I have only now just learned that 'll' is pronounces as 'ly' here and not as it is written in English or as just y in Spanish.

I just noticed that as well... when I saw a mexican food commercial about a week ago advertising their Authentic "Tortiliaya" - SO I went out to Alabang and grabbed a burrito at the mexican restaurant... WORSE DECISION EVAH !

The pronounciation was as different as their recipe... I never saw a Carne Asada Burrito with 99% rice and 2 slivers of meat and 4 or maybe at the most 5 BEANS !!! Its a stinkin bean !! Dont hold back on me now !

I joked to the waiter they mixed up my order .. I said I ordered a "Carne Asada Burrito" but they accidentally gave me a "Kanin Asada Burrito" !   He offered to replace it ... I said .. its ok... I will enjoy my rice wrapped in this Tortiliaya... flavor was good... just ... different... considering real fajita meat/carne asada/skirt steal tastes completely different than their random sliver of meat...

My asawa tried to pronounce Tortilla a few times and just could not do it ... kinda funny....  but I explained to her that many cultures have words that are loaned to others - and its nice when you can still identify your local Latte no matter what country you are in.... now dont get me started on the local way of pronouncing that Ice cream... no ... SORBET ... ... SORBET.... very... different

Still... I would give my neighbors left nut for some real Carne Asada any day !

[c_a_p_t_a_i_n_r_o_n]

To this day and after 15 plus years of marriage, I sometime have to ask my wife to repeat a word and if that does not work then to spell it for me, and sometime I have to do the same for her and she is educated and has lived in the states for all that time.

I am also still learning after 21 years of marriage. I have only now just learned that 'll' is pronounces as 'ly' here and not as it is written in English or as just y in Spanish. e.g. Paella is pronounced Paelya here and Paeya in Spanish. We never stop learning.

Colin

Welsh warning.......LL in the welsh language is pronounced "thl" with a very soft L

[butseriouslyuk]

Recently Rebeccas sister had been bragging about this wonderful guy she had met online. My suspicions were aroused when sister said the guy had sent her a package but it was being held in Malaysia with some fees to pay ($800). I looked at the copy of the invoice of stuff this guy had supposedly sent: laptop, perfume, jewellry and cellphone. Plus he'd sent her an email saying there was a sum of money in the laptop box but not included on the invoice, the amount being 20,000 UK pounds! She wanted me to call this guy to try and help get the package for her. Of course I wanted nothing to do with it.

It was an obvious scam ( we Googled and checked ) but I'm sure if sister had $800 she would have sent it. The lure of a new Nokia, diamond jewellry and a laptop was too much to resist.

[mi49085]

I talked to the owner of Filipina Heart over a month ago because he also offers a service to fill out required paper work to bring your wife to the states. That was how I found out there is a income requirement. He told me that he screens the girls on his Filipina Heart site to prevent scams so I think that is the best site if you are going to look for someone on a introduction site.

[Foreigner]

Thanks, I did check out the FH site and it seems to be very professionally run.  All of the advice is good and you are asked to report any requests for money.

Most of the women are very attractive as well 

Cheers

[B-Ray]

QUOTE: "Most of the women are very attractive as well"............. a guy thingie 

Combine that with compatibility and you will find a WINNER!

Otherwise, we will be hearing other things from you, COUNT ON IT!!
B-Ray

Thanks, I did check out the FH site and it seems to be very professionally run.  All of the advice is good and you are asked to report any requests for money.

Most of the women are very attractive as well 

Cheers

[Foreigner]

"Thanks, I did check out the FH site and it seems to be very professionally run.  All of the advice is good and you are asked to report any requests for money.  a guy thingie - "

Absolutely .............. do you you think I go to Hosto Bars Ray? hahahaha!

"Otherwise, we will be hearing other things from you, COUNT ON IT!!  -"

 Sorry I don't unstand, please explain!

[paulgee]

With regard to Filipina Heart I can tell you that I only had good experiences on it. Lots of attractive girls and the half dozen I communicated with seemed genuine.

And after only a few weeks I struck lucky, and 3 visits and 8 months later I was married, my wife joining me here in the UK a few months ago. FH seems to be the favourite site for my wifes friends also and although not everyone will be successful I wish my good luck on  everyone else.

Paul